It has been said that “Comparison is the thief of joy,” and I think that that has never been more true than it is today.
Especially for moms.
Comparison is a killer, and social media is fueling it.
Maybe I’m speaking for myself, but I would truly love to hear if you can relate.
If I am not careful, and diligent, social media can really chip away at my confidence.
Help a girl out here, and tell me if I am not alone.
So, when you get on social media, do you ever find yourself comparing:
- Your body doesn’t look as good as hers.
- Your hair doesn’t look as good as hers.
- Your smile isn’t as white as hers.
- Your skin isn’t as smooth as hers.
- Your home isn’t as clean/well-designed as hers.
- You aren’t serving as well as she is.e
- Your kids aren’t as accomplished/good looking/successful as hers.
- Your marriage isn’t as hearts and flowers and sunshine-y as theirs is.
Can anyone relate? Or am I the only one dealing with these crazy, messed-up comparisons?
It doesn’t have to be exclusively social media either. I am an equal-opportunity insecure person! I compare when I am out and about as well! Can I get an Amen?
If I’m alone, you can stop reading now, and I will go back to dealing with my own feelings. I’m doing good work, I will give myself that, but I would also love to hear I’m not the only one in this boat!
What is crazy about all of this? We aren’t even comparing ourselves to ONE woman. Most likely, all of these comparisons come up as we scroll, or as we observe when we are out and about. But it’s not just one woman, because no one woman has all of the above! So we are comparing ourselves to several women, and finding that we don’t measure up, but in reality: NO ONE DOES!
So, if no one woman embodies all of the qualities you’re comparing to yours, then I ask you:
Why on earth would you think that you should, or even could, embody perfection?
This has been a theme that has popped up in our members-only group over and over again- this theme of feeling inadequate- especially when observing what other moms are accomplishing.
It’s time to battle back against insecurity, because you are truly too awesome to live one more day doubting your value.
An important part of our Mom’s Running Club community is how we care for one another and how we lift one another up.
My goal in the coming weeks is to share with you what I am calling the Mom Confidence Campaign, because while I deal with self-doubt every single day, one thing I know for sure is this:
You can change your mindset, and by actively focusing on all that you are, all that you do, and all that you CAN do, you can find yourself in a kinder, more self-loving place.
Please hear this: this is not about not striving to be your very best you!
I’m a big, big fan of digging deep and striving to be the healthiest, strongest version of you! I know for a fact that you will find huge gains in your confidence by setting goals and working hard to achieve them!
But what we’re going to do is mix in generous quantities of self-love, self-acceptance, chilling the F out, and defining your worth in the ways that actually matter!!
(Hint: your worth has zero to do with the size of your jeans or the number of crinkles around your eyes.)
I hope you’ll participate and jump on board and embrace this Mom Confidence Challenge!
If you want to be sure you are in the loop, you can be sure to get email updates here!
I was pretty shocked and disappointed when I Googled “mom confidence challenge” and found almost nothing, so let’s change that and spread the Mom Confidence love with the hashtag #MomConfidenceCampaign, shall we!?
As always, I want to hear from YOU. Hit me with your questions or comments below, or message me here.