Can you really and truly change a bad habit, in an instant? Absolutely, with a simple trick that is powerful, easily accessible…and very few of us actually use! Read on to become one of those moms who takes charge of her habits, whether we’re talking how you eat, how you workout, or even how you relate to those you love!
Hopefully by now you’re familiar with mindset, or in the simplest definition, “the habits of the mind.” If not, here’s a post I did on Mindset 101, and I also absolutely most definitely recommend checking out some of the posts here that address mindset for busy moms like you, just wanting to live your healthiest life.
What we’re talking about here: cognitive reframing.
It’s a simple (and easy!) concept, and it is essentially the same as changing your perspective.
Cognitive Reframing was first introduced in the 1960’s as a component of cognitive behavioral therapy, which was the first therapy format that said that we can constructively change our thoughts, and therefore change our moods, and our actions.
We all have mindset habits that don’t serve us well. Do any of the following resonate with you?
”I’ve tried so many times and not succeeded. Why would this time be any different? I might as well just accept that this is the only state of my health I’ll ever know.”Me in the past
“I wish my thighs weren’t so big” (or jiggly, or so skinny, or whatever body part you like, with whatever complaint you have)Me in the past, you as well?
“I wish I looked more like that”Me in the past and sometimes now, ESPECIALLY when I’m browsing social media, until I check myself with cognitive reframing.
We would never let our children speak negatively about their bodies or our habits or our tendencies, but we all do it, myself included!
Cognitive Reframing is the vehicle that turns it around!
And all you have to do is decide to try! No special $100 gear from Amazon on this one, just make a commitment!
How to Reframe:
- Believe that you can. Decide right now that the negative thoughts no longer serve you or suit you, and that you are not only ready to change, but you believe that you can (especially with support!).
- Take note of those messages you send yourself.Just notice.
- Try a different, more positive and loving message.
- Share with the group or your partner!
So simple, so easy, but it still takes time to flex the reframing muscles. Just as it will take time to gain fitness as a runner, and develop the habit of running regularly, you will need to practice to become better at this!
And it is a practice. They call yoga a practice, too, and for good reason. You’ll never be perfect. You’ll just keep practicing. And you will get better!
So, in the above examples, some simple reframes can look like the following:
Instead of ”I’ve tried so many times and not succeeded. Why would this time be any different? I might as well just accept that this is the only state of my health I’ll ever know,” what if you tried on:
“I have achieved a lot in other areas of my life (like parenting, work, or even creatively), and so I know for sure that when I am committed and I work hard, I can succeed. Achieving a healthy lifestyle is no different- and I bet with great tools and support, I can totally do it!”You, equipped with reframing and support!
You could also reframe “I wish my thighs weren’t so big” (or jiggly, or so skinny, or whatever body part you like, with whatever complaint you have) to something along the lines of:
“As I work out and eat better, I can feel my muscles getting stronger. I am a mom and I’m no longer 25, but I am feeling more and more that I am truly doing the best I can with the body God gave me!”You, after a couple weeks of great habits, and reframing!
And finally, let’s change “I wish I looked more like that,” to:
“Beauty is as much to do with the joy and confidence I exude as it is to do with my outer package. I embrace love, connection, and joy, and I recognize that by smiling AND meaning it, I become more beautiful instantly.”Yes I am serious: this can be you, if you choose it!
If you’d like to learn more about how to connect with a community of moms like you, all on a mission to manage our mindsets and shift our habits to more self-love, more movement, better nutrition, and healthier, deeper connections, hit me up! You can email me, or find info on Mom’s Running Club. (And PS: not all moms in MRC are runners, so don’t let that stop you!)
Till next time, keep on working to be your best you. As long as you don’t stop, and you pick yourself up each time you stumble, you will succeed!